Prospective clients often ask about low self-esteem. The
best thing that I can do is refer them to the formulations
of Albert Ellis or Windy Dryden, who maintain, I believe
correctly, that high self-esteem is not something to
sought after. High self-esteem is an unrealistic self-rating,
just like self-contempt. I seek to help clients develop
realistic self-acceptance, to come to terms with
themselves warts and all and then to decide what if
anything they would prefer to try to change in the
furtherance of their life-goals.